"There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family." -Elder M. Russell Ballard
Do you know 7 moms? Then you know at least 1 who had severe depression, anxiety or another mental health complication during her pregnancy or after her baby was born.
You can’t tell by looking at her.
So please, on behalf of moms and babies everywhere: ASK HER how she’s doing ASK HER to tell you how she’s feeling.
TELL HER you know she’s doing the best she can. TELL HER she’s a good mom. TELL HER that if she needs help, you will help her find it.
ALL THOUGH THE TERM “POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION” IS OFTEN USED, THERE IS ACTUALLY A SPECTRUM OF DISORDERS THAT CAN AFFECT MOTHERS DURING PREGNANCY AND POSTPARTUM.
If YOU are suffering: Mama, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Perinatal Mood Disorders are so common yet are not talked about. Why? We live in a culture of misunderstanding and ignorance surrounding mental health + lack of woman centric medical care + unrealistic expectations of a postpartum woman (both physically and emotionally) + lack of vulnerability and trust/safety with peers = suffering in silence.
Women who develop depression or anxiety before birth, after birth, throughout the first years of Motherhood have symptoms that are caused by a combination of psychological, social, and biological stressors. Hormonal fluctuations cause reactions in sensitive women. Risk factors do include personal or family history of mood or anxiety disorders and sensitivity to hormonal changes. DEVELOPING A PERINATAL MOOD DISORDER IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You did nothing to “get” it.
Perinatal Depression and Mood Disorders can be experienced in varying degrees. Treatment looks different for each Mama but all include focus on self-care and support. A professional Postpartum Doula is a great source of both. To learn more about Mind Body Mama’s Postpartum Doula care, visit http://www.mindbodymamatulsa.com/services/support/
Other treatments can include social support—phone, online, support group— seek out women who have been there, are safe and offer non-judgmental understanding and encouragement. A counselor or therapist who understands perinatal mood disorders can be of great benefit. Finally, medications are available. Some Mamas respond best with a combination of therapies. Some take medication, some choose natural remedies, some diet and intentional gentle movement of their bodies, and some thrive in online support groups, others one on one with a counselor or spiritual practice and support. Each treatment plan is as unique as you are, there is no one-size-fits-all and none better than the other. The best treatment plan is one that takes your individual needs into account and that you feel respected and empowered with.
Postpartum Support International - www.postpartum.net
PSI Warmline: (800) 944-4773(4PPD) (English & Spanish)
Lactation & Medication (National Library of Medicine) - http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/newtoxnet/lactmed.htm
Postpartum Dads - www.postpartumdads.org
Loss & Grief in Pregnancy and Postpartum - http://www.postpartum.net/get-help/loss-grief-in-pregnancy-postpartum/
Postpartum Support International https://www.facebook.com/groups/25960478598/
Tulsa’s Pregnant & 4th Trimester Moms https://www.facebook.com/groups/1325539377471861/
Tulsa Breastfeeding Support https://www.facebook.com/groups/TulsaBreastfeedingSupport/
Postpartum Stress Center https://www.facebook.com/postpartumstresscenter2/
Postpartum Support International https://www.facebook.com/PostpartumSupportInternational/
Weekly Live Group
LOCAL PHYSICIANS AND MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
Dr. Michele Neil | Functional Medicine Institute | 6048 South Sheridan Road Tulsa, OK 74145 | (918) 748-3640 | www.fmidr.com Hormone testing and holistic health approaches.
Dr. Paul Gehring | OB/GYN Specialists | Bernsen Medical Plaza | 1919 South Wheeling Avenue Suite 700 Tulsa, OK 74104 | (918) 712-8700 Very sympathetic and understanding to postpartum mothers. Feels comfortable treating the disorder.
Dr. Dominic Losacco | Psychiatrist | 6565 South Yale Ave. Suite 706 – Kelly Medical Building Tulsa, OK 74136-8308 | (918) 491-5767 Psychiatry – specializes in PPMD. Treating the entirety of the illness with medication & talk therapy.
Dr. Nick Gould | South Tulsa Family Therapy | 8596 East 101st Suite D Tulsa, OK 74137 | (918) 693-1653 http://nickgouldfamilytherapy.com Psychology - talk therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy and insomnia help
Susan Bachman | Licensed Professional Counselor | Family Therapy & Renewal Center | 8321 East 61st Street Suite #205 Tulsa, OK 74133 | (918) 369-4950 Talk therapist - specializes in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Trauma Focused CBT. Comes highly recommended from moms with Postpartum PTSD.
Amy Brown | Licensed Professional Counselor | Southside Behavioral Health | 124 N 1st Street Jenks, OK 74037 | (918) 917-5107 Talk therapist and Mama. Strengths focus with endless positivity and encouragement
COPES (Community Outreach Psychiatric Emergency Services) (via Family & Children Services)
Telephone and mobile crisis outreach. (918) 744-4800 - Available 24/7
The COPES team will assess the level of risk, provide crisis support by phone and may go directly to the person in crisis to intervene and stabilize the situation.
Crisis Care Center (via Family & Children Services)
1055 South Houston Avenue, West Tulsa, OK 74127 | (918) 744-4800
The Crisis Center provides psychiatric beds and mental health services 24/7.
Laureate Psychiatric Clinic
6655 South Yale Tulsa, OK | (918) 491-3700 (8:30 am-4:30 pm) | (918) 481-4000 (after-hours and emergencies)
National Suicide Prevention
(800) 273-8255 (TALK)
Oklahoma Department of Mental Health Crisis Hotline