Hello, and welcome to my page. First of all, I want to say thank you for taking the time to read a little bit about me. Your consideration in allowing me to join you on this amazing journey, is truly humbling.
I am a 28 years old, single mother, of a 6 year old, birthed via emergency cesarean. I have lived in Tulsa, most of my life. My family is also from Colorado, and Texas.
In September of 2014 I met with the founder of Better Birth Now, Brooke White, and began to make plans to embark on my Doula journey. By December of that year, I was attending my doula training, and on my way to becoming certified.
I am grateful for each and every opportunity that I am given to grow as a Birth Doula, and to be able to share that strength and confidence with families. I am evolving into a doula who can assist and advocate a wide variety of births and birth plans, and assist in advocating any and all birth mamas, and families. I am in the process of becoming DONA certified, and plan to be by spring of 2017.
I hope you have learned a little about me, and my experience, and I look forward to our first communion.
"Whenever and however you give birth, your experience will impact your emotions, your mind, your body, and your spirit for the rest of your life.”
-Ina May Gaskin
I had decided to hire a doula to help ease any anxiety and fears as a first-time mom. I knew I wanted to deliver in a hospital, and had attended my best friend’s birth, but was nervous for myself to go through delivery. We took all the classes and learned a lot, but it’s hard to prepare for something you’ve never done before, and I wanted someone there I could trust, that would encourage me, and be there by mine and my hubby’s side as we went through this. ;) From the time we met Amber until the day my son was born, she was amazing at reassuring and encouraging, informing us about things we could ask for at the hospital, and was always 100% supportive of any decisions/wishes I had for delivery. During labor, she suggested and helped with different techniques to cope with contractions, asked for things for me, worked well with the nurses and doctor, and pretty much just becomes your best friend during this time! She has an amazing ability to connect with you like you’ve known each other for years. During pushing, she was encouraging and cheering me on, right there next to my hubby! :) Once my son was born, there were some complications and looking back this is the reason I’m most grateful I had Amber there with me. They whisked Connor away to the NICU with my husband and I became worried since I wasn’t sure what was going on. Amber was right there with me, holding my hand, telling me enough to reassure me without making me panicky. I had some bleeding they couldn’t get stopped, which caused the nurses and doctor to get hurried and hushed, but Amber was still there with me while my husband was in the NICU. I can’t imagine having gone through that without her and I’m so thankful she was there. If you’re on the fence about a doula, just meet with Amber, and you’ll get an instant feel for her doula style; She’s very passionate and genuine about what she does and it comes through from the first time you meet her. Thank you Amber for everything you did; you truly went above and beyond any expectations I had for a doula! :)
"Oh, good. She's here, now I can do it." Those are the first words I said when I saw that Amber had arrived at my home for the birth of my daughter. From what my sister in law and husband tell me my attitude changed when she got there. She had this way of making me believe in myself. When I doubted myself during the birth she would have another quote to tell me why I could. Or she would bring up something that we had talked about when I wasn't in labor to remind me why I choosing this way to give birth. And that is how Amber was throughout my whole pregnancy. I would call/text with doubts or questions or just needing advice and she was so patient and understanding and encouraging. She would just listen and tell me again that I could do anything I set my mind to. There were a few times I would text her just so I could hear her tell me that. She has this endless positivity and belief in women and in the birth that each individual woman wants, which is exactly a pregnant woman needs. She was very deliberate about finding out what I wanted. But more importantly, she was very deliberate in finding out why I wanted those things. Her being so deliberate about knowing those two things is what helped me know that she really believed in me and the things I wanted and that I could accomplish those goals. She is the first and only doula I interviewed and I knew from that meeting that she would be what I needed for my birth. I hired her pretty early on and my husband wasn't too interested or invested in the idea of a doula. He wanted me to have the birth I wanted and if that included a doula then so be it. However, when she was getting ready to leave my husband's last words to her were, "we need to have another baby so you can be our doula." I include this because I know husbands can sometimes be hesitant about hiring a doula. But, my husband will be the first to tell you how beneficial they are. They're not there to replace the husband, just to help the laboring mom. And Amber was amazing at helping me. 10 out of 10 will hire again.
Amber was the perfect choice for our doula for so many reasons! I had a an unmedicated hospital VBAC, and she was such a source of strength for me! She was a well of knowledge on so many things regarding prenatal care, the whole process of birth, and postpartum. She was in the hospital for over 12 hours with us. She always remained calm, and such an ease about her that was contagious. She was my voice of reason when I was going through transition saying "I can't do this! I can't!", she was telling me I could and I was. She kept a detailed timeline for me throughout labor and delivery so I could refer to it when writing my birth story. I thought that was especially awesome. You think you will remember everything, but it's all a blur afterwards, drugs or not! She had such a sweet disposition, and truly cared about the birth of my baby and helping me get him out. I also asked her to get pictures and videos of delivery and right after birth. She was able to do that AND support me the whole time. My husband and I both agreed that we couldn't have imagined doing it without her help! I was having some trouble breastfeeding afterwards and needed some immediate help (it was a Friday evening and no one was available until the following Monday) so I contacted Amber and she got me in touch with an amazing Lactation Consultant who helped me the following morning. I was so thankful for that. I have to be honest, and say that I didn't think we could afford a doula. Let me tell you, it is a MUST! No matter what kind of birth you are having. In my opinion, doulas don't get paid enough for all they do and the availability they have for their clients. I hope to be able to work with her again for our future pregnancies and births.
We chose Amber to be our Doula for our 2nd VBAC because after our first meeting with her it was very apparent that she supported all types of birthing, but most importantly for us, Hypnosis for childbirth. Amber took time out of her personal life to learn all about Hypnobabies and what I would need before our birthing time arrived to better support me, which is truly individualized care! During my birth time Amber was very supportive and ensured my birth plan was followed as much as possible, she worked well with my OB and nursing staff, she ensured my room stayed peaceful and that I stayed in hypnosis. Amber also educated and empowered my husband on how to help me during intense pressure waves, she was not afraid to hop right up on the bed with me and “get her hands dirty” supporting me. Amber provided care that was not only professional, but very personal and caring. Amber has also followed up with me via phone and an in-person visit in the days after our sons’ birth to ensure everything is going smoothly. I would highly recommend Amber to anyone who wants a Doula with a big heart, gentle yet fierce spirit, open mind and a belief that our bodies are beautiful amazing things! My birth experience with Amber was beautiful and gentle; I will be using her in the future if we have more babies!